Stuck In The Closet?? And Need To Come Out??

One of the hardest things to do when realizing your sexual orientation, is coming out.

Coming out can be so hard and finding out when and how to do it, can be even harder.

The first thing to do is to be patient. You do not have to tell everyone at once. And you need to take your time. And not push yourself. Telling your friends can be easier than telling your parents. If you believe that a brother, sister, cousin, aunt, or uncle will be easier to tell then start there.

You could also develop a support network of friends that will have your back and be accepting and supportive. Be positive and upbeat. Maintaining a good attitude will set the tone and may make the conversation easier. Sometimes writing a letter can be easier as well.

Find some resources and/or find a mentor, counselor, or friend to talk to.

Also, it is important to be patient. Some people take longer to accept things than others and you have to know that it can be very hard for some people.

Be firm and precise. Try to figure out what term you will use to identify yourself before the conversation. Having the term sometimes helps so your parents can know how to accept you for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, etc.

Talk with other people that have come out and try to learn from their coming out stories. Mine is not bad but not great.

I was dating someone, and still am dating them after being separated against our wishes for two years, and my family found out about it which was what separated us....

So, that is how they found out. Not the best way but... it was still effective in coming out.

Try writing your family a letter and telling them what you think and explain how you feel and what you want to happen.

Coming out can be a beautiful thing and it should be seen as a wonderful milestone in your life and one of life's greatest leaps.