What Am I? How Do I Identify? Navigating a World Outside the Closet...

If you questioning your sexual orientation you have come to the right place. However, something that not everybody understands is, you don't have to label yourself to a "certain sexuality". Many individuals are Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual, Pansexual, etc. But we are human. Maybe you wish to call your self something, to make your self feel better about being LGBTQ+. Below I will provide a list of sexualities and their meanings. If you cannot decide your identify then just go with queer. Until you are completely sure, this is a good word to use or even just as simple as questioning. You are your own person, you don't have to 'identify' as anything unless YOU want to.

Lesbian. Another term most of us have come to know. This describes women who are sexually attracted to other women. They have a desire to be with these women in a romantic way, as well. You would also use the term homosexual when referring to someone who is lesbian.

Gay. This is another homosexual term. It’s used to describe a man who is sexually and romantically attracted to other men. When someone is gay, they want to have a life with their same gender and is attracted to men only. Bisexual. If you haven’t heard of this term, I would be very surprised. We all know homosexuals and heterosexuals exists, but a bisexual is a combination of the two. They’re people who are sexually or romantically attracted to both genders. They can be sexually and romantically involved with men and women and be happy. Pansexual. Now we’re getting into territory not everyone is familiar with, but is becoming increasingly popular. This type of sexuality is more under the radar, but definitely exists. It’s used to describe a person who doesn’t have a gender preference. In fact, they’re attracted to all and any gender. They are attracted to the person at their core and it’s not dependent on their gender at all. Polysexual. This term is actually very much like pansexual, but not quite as expansive. People who identify as Polysexual are attracted to many different genders, but not all of them. They like more than just men and women, but their preferences are still limited. Asexual. This sexuality may be hard for many of us to understand, but it’s very important to know and be informed about. Those who identify as asexual actually never feel sexual attraction toward anyone. They have no desires when it comes to sex. However, they do still have romantic desires unrelated to sex. Demisexual. Most people who are demisexual actually don’t realize it at first. Many believe they’re asexual until they meet that special person who makes them feel a sexual desire. Demisexual individuals can’t have sexual desire unless they have a strong emotional attraction and connection with someone. Only after they’ve made that connection can they actually feel and think sexually about someone. Graysexual. This term definitely falls under the asexual umbrella. Those who think they’re asexual, but also experience sexual desire at very random, rare occasions would identify as graysexual. They can only feel sexual desire under certain conditions or even only at random times here and there. Queer. This is more of an umbrella term. It’s used to describe those who fall under any sexual orientation that is not heterosexual. However, it’s also used to describe those who don’t fit under any other sexuality at all. So it has two specific purposes. Autosexual. Being autosexual is also something that would be difficult for people who don’t identify as this to understand. This type of sexuality is when someone can only be sexually aroused by themselves. They satisfy themselves and don’t have sexual desire for anyone else. Androsexual. This might be a little confusing to understand, but I’ll do my best. Someone who identifies as androsexual is sexually attracted to men and those with masculine features. So a person who is androsexual can like men AND women, so long as those women look masculine. Gynosexual. This is basically the opposite of androsexual. When someone identifies as gynosexual, they have a sexual attraction to women and those who have feminine features. So anybody who is attracted to women can also be attracted to men and other genders that appear to be very feminine in nature. Homoflexible. This term is definitely one that many people will argue doesn’t exist. However, there are plenty of people who definitely feel this way and they want to make their sexuality known too. And that’s why it’ll be covered in this list of sexualities. Those who are Homoflexible may primarily be attracted to their own gender, however, they will sometimes have sexual attraction to the opposite gender. AKA, their sexuality can be flexible. Heteroflexible. I’m sure you’ve gathered by now that this sexuality is much like Homoflexible. It’s when someone typically has heterosexual desires but occasionally with find themselves sexually attracted to those of the same gender. Their heterosexual desires are flexible.